So, I was invited to speak on CBC Radio One’s Cross Country Checkup, hosted today by guest Suhana Meharchand. On the show, I briefly spoke about parents assisting their adult children find jobs. Let’s just say that sparked a bit of laughter and a bit more of disbelief.
Should they help?
Well, personally I think they should. But. And this is a big one (get your mind out of the gutter please. Sheesh.) There should be a limit.
I think Christina Newberry took a great approach to it in her article “How to Help Adult Children Living at Home Find a Job.” In the post, she outlines the steps parents can take to help their kids out but she also mentions where that help should stop. That is to say, don’t go and actually follow up with employers for your children. They need to be independent.
Well, what we need is assisted independence.
To think that I have to rely on my parents to get on my feet is something I am not quite comfortable with. I wish I didn’t have to. As Suhana said on the show, parents have done so much for their kids and now we are expecting them to do more. Which is unfair to say the least. But helping them, will help the parents.
C’mon you want us out right?
Jokes aside. We are told that informational interviews are extremely important to develop a network. Agreed. Where do we start with developing this so called network? Well, with those close to us. And who are we closest to? Our parents.
What I meant on the show was simply that parents should aide their adult children with developing those networks. Only if they are able to and their children are willing to get that help. Please, don’t go out and find a job for your kids. I, personally, would never be able to live that down myself.
Networking starts at home. That’s as far as parents should go. And perhaps look over our resumes. They have experience. Real experience. Not free internship experience(s).